Birth Stories Matter

Making sense of birth experiences

Has anyone said to you ‘at least you have a healthy baby and that’s what matters'?

It's a common response from friends or birth professional to an account of a difficult or traumatic pregnancy or labour - an experience that can have lasting psychological and emotional impacts on women. If your answer is "yes", then you may benefit from a one to one session with me. I’ll listen to your birth story and between us we’ll try to unravel and make sense of the areas you feel are important.

You may be struggling to come to terms with recent pregnancy or birth or becoming pregnant again has rekindled doubts and fears because you feel your previous hurts have not been acknowledged. Perhaps you are delaying having another baby because you feel fearful or you maybe you just need an ear to hear your story. Your partner is important too and may have feel guilt that he or she could not protect you or some other emotion. They are welcome to attend the session with you if you think that’s appropriate or they can arrange a separate session.

The aim of the session is to provide a safe place to share your story with an experienced midwife who understands the importance of validating and acknowledging your personal story and has the knowledge and experience to help you make sense of what happened. The Reflection sessions can help people who have had a difficult birth experience but perhaps have insufficient or no answers to explain why was it difficult, why did it happen like that, was it necessary and could it have been different.

The sessions focus on listening to you and helping to unravel the areas you feel are important, that your experience is not overlooked. This may guide you to a better understanding of the reasons behind the interventions or the events that occurred or it might be useful because it offers you the opportunity to express dissatisfaction and sadness about the way you were treated, communicated with or that issues that were important to you were disregarded. Being heard is an important part of the journey to recovery and healing.

Please be aware this is a ‘listening and making sense’ session not a counselling or psychological therapy. I am not a qualified counsellor or Trauma therapist. I am a midwife with many years experience. I have attended over a thousand births and have a very good understanding of the challenges women face during childbirth. These sessions will not address Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) shown in the box. If you have any of the symptoms described there please seek help from your GP or a specialist therapist.

Sessions last an hour and can be face to face at Treat Norwich, West London or via Skype - I am only available for a limited number of face to face sessions at Treat every 2 months - please contact Treat Reception for availability.

for skype sessions please contact me directly email: [email protected]

Costs £40 at Treat and West London: ask if you have difficulty paying

Skype/facetime session £35: ask if you have difficulty paying

Practitioners
Molly O’Brien RM. BSc (Hons) AHBM. RCM

Midwife, antenatal educator and hypnobirthing practitioner, Molly has practised as a midwife for 20 years in both hospital and community settings, attending hundreds of women in labour. She is also been an associate lecturer at the University of East Anglia (UEA). Her area of expertise is physiological birth, hypnobirth and waterbirth, but she also has a wealth of experience in complex birth. She recently retired from full time clinical midwifery in an NHS midwife-led birth unit to focus on running courses for both colleagues and for women. She is an expert in normal, straightforward birth, and how to keep it that way. 

Molly chose to switch from nursing to midwifery after giving birth to her own children ignited a passion for the powerful and unforgettable experience of becoming a mother. In twenty years of clinical practice little has delighted her more than witnessing the calm, confident births of women who trust in their bodies and birth instinctively. A key element of such births has been a lack of fear. Molly understands through her work how fear interferes with normal physiology,  and how various factors, increased medicalisation, media sensationalism, and a less closely socially connected world have all helped bring fear into the birthing room.

Molly is an advocate of hypnobirthing, she trained as a hypnobirth practitioner on a course specifically for midwives because: “it’s an excellent tool, transforming fear into the calm confidence that gives women the best possible chance of a normal birth.”

In her practice she always took a "salutogenic" view of birth and throughout her career has studied and trained in techniques to help "keep birth normal". The techniques she learned and developed worked so well she started teaching them to students and staff in her hospital - this has evolved into a one day "Biomechanics for Birth training day for midwives and other birth workers that she regularly takes to Spain and has gone as far afield as Chile as well as venues across the UK. 

She also teaches "Moving for and Easier Birth" for women - demonstrating a series of "tricks of the trade" that can help get labour moving and keep labouring women more comfortable in pregnancy as well as whist giving birth and has just added one to one debriefing sessions for women who are struggling to come to terms with their birth experiences

 Molly Offers
Duration Cost
Hypnobirthing Course 10 x hours

£220

Moving for an easier birth class

2.00 hours

£28.00
Birth Stories Matter

1.00 hour

£35/40

To book an appointment with Molly, please call: 01603 514195

To find out more about molly's work visit her website